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How to Decorate for a Pagan Ceremony
Feel free to go overboard with the flowers and other symbols
of fertility such as conch shells, brightly coloured eggs,
God and Goddess figurines, pine cones and so forth. You can
decorate with many candles and may choose to create a circle
of candles and crystals around the area you will be consecrating.
You will also probably want to set up an
altar. How you set up your altar will be a personal choice,
but we've included some ideas below for you:
- East-Glass candleholder with a white
candle to represent Air.
- South-Brass candleholder with red candle
to represent Fire.
- West-Bowl of seashells in brine to represent
Water.
- North-Bowl of stones (amethyst, turquoise,
lapis) to represent Earth.
- Wine glass or goblet
- Athame or ritual knife
- Cauldron
- Broom
- Incense burner and incense
- Bell
- Pentacle
- Staff
- Sword
- Wand
- Bowl of salt or earth
- Feathers
- Rose quartz
If you choose to have items to represent
the 4 elements, they are usually placed at their corresponding
direction:
Fire South Athame, Red Candle
Water West Chalice of water, Sea shells
Earth North Pentacle, Bowl of Stones, Salt or Earth
Air East Incense, Wand, Feathers
Overall, the items you choose to have on
your altar are up to you. Next, the altar should be dedicated
to the Goddess and the God.
Example Dedication Ritual
Ground yourself and imagine the power of the earth entering
your body through your feet. Invoke the directions by lighting
the candles and inviting the Spirits of the East/Air to witness
the dedication; then the South/Fire, the Spirits of the West/Water,
and the Spirits of the North/Earth.
Invite the Goddess and the God to witness
the dedication. Light the incense so you may use its smoke
as the consecration/purification medium. Pass each tool over
the smoke, then over the flame of each of the candles, in
the order in which you lit them.
Next, verbally dedicate the altar and all
the tools to the Goddess and the God, pledging to never use
the altar or any of the tools to bring harm to another or
to produce negativity in any way.
End by extinguishing the candles in the
reverse order that you lit them, thanking the Goddess and
the God and each of the Spirits for attending, then ground
yourself again, imagining the energy flowing harmlessly back
into the earth.
A Note on Altars
An altar does not have to be a table or other man-made item,
nor does it have to be indoors. In fact, given that Paganism
is a Nature-oriented religion, the best place for ritual is
outside in the woods or some other natural environment. You
could use a large rock, a tree stump, or a mound of earth
as an altar.
When creating an altar and during the consecration
of it, always do what feels right at the time. You will worship
your deities in your own way, and in fact setting up an altar
may or may not be important to you at all. If it is important,
do it your own way, so it'll be an extension of you, rather
than some cold meaningless table.
One thing to consider when setting up an
altar, is the direction it faces. It is traditional to have
your altar facing North, but if that is just not possible
then you may need to place it elsewhere. Once your altar is
in place, remember that it is a sacred place and should be
treated with respect. Whether or not you let other people
touch the items is up to you, but some people feel that sharing
tools will bring negative or unknown energy to them.
Where to Stand
Before your guests arrive, your celebrant should be in place
at the center of the circle at the altar. Have the bride and
groom facing one another in the front of the celebrant. Attendants
may stand to either side of the bride and groom.
Casting a Purification Circle
This is written for the Celebrant to purify the circle, although
it is fine if the bride and groom wish to perform this ritual
themselves.
Once your guests have arrived in the circle,
the celebrant stands before your altar. She lights the altar
candles and circles the area in an anti-clockwise direction,
lighting each quarter candle.
She picks up the broom and sweeps the circle
as you walk inside it in an anti clockwise direction. She
repeats as she sweeps:
Sweep, sweep, sweep this place
By Power of Air, I cleanse this space.
While doing this she feels the element of
Air moving within the circle. She then returns to the altar
and picks up the red candle. She walks around the inside of
the circle anti clockwise while saying:
Light, light, I light this place
By Power of Fire, I cleanse this space.
She concentrates on the Fire energy flowing
around the circle. Then she returns to the altar and picks
up the chalice of water. As she walks in an anti clockwise
direction inside the circle, she sprinkles the water with
her fingers and says:
Liquid, liquid, I wash this space
By Powers of Water, I cleanse this space.
She feels the element of Water flowing around
the circle, and returns to the altar to pick up the bowl of
earth. Walking in an anti clockwise direction around the circle,
she sprinkles the earth and says:
Dirt, dirt, as I walk this place
Powers of Earth, cleanse this space.
She feels the element of earth bring her
gift to the circle, returns the bowl to the altar and moves
to the centre of the circle. In the Goddess position, she
says:
Spirit, spirit, fill this space
Powers of the Divine, consecrate this space!
She feels the power if the Goddess and God
enter her and the sacred space. When the energy begins to
dissipate, she turns back to the altar. Laying her hands upon
the altar, she says:
This altar is dedicated to the Lord and
Lady of light. May it serve us well.
The Ceremony Itself
Now the circle and altar are ready for the Wedding Ceremony.
Celebrant:
Blessings and merry meet. We are here today
to join (bride) and (groom) together, they have asked you
here to share in their joy, and to declare their love for
one another before you as a community.
Celebrant To the Bride:
What is your desire?
Bride:
To be made one with (groom)
Celebrant To Groom:
What is your desire?
Groom:
To be made one with (bride)
The celebrant at this time would take up
a wand and sprinkle it upon the bride
Celebrant To bride:
Repeat after me: I (bride), do come here
of my own free will, to seek the partnership of (groom) I
come with all love, honor and sincerity, wishing only to become
one with him, whom I love. Always will I strive for (grooms)
happiness and welfare.
The celebrant at this time would take up
a wand and sprinkle it upon the groom
Celebrant To Groom:
Repeat after me, I (groom) do come here
of my own free will, to seek the partnership of (bride). I
come with all love, honor and sincerity, wishing only to become
one with her, whom I love. Always will I strive for (brides)
happiness and welfare.
At this time the celebrant would sprinkle
the rings with the wand and take them up, handing the brides
ring to the groom and the grooms ring to the bride
Celebrant:
As the grass of the fields and the trees
of the woods bend together under the pressures of the storm,
so too must you both bend when the wind blows strong. But
know that as quickly as the storm comes, so equally quickly
may it leave. Yet will you both stand strong in each others
strength. As you give love, so you will receive it. As you
give strength, so will you receive strength. Together you
are one, apart you are as nothing. Know that no two people
can be exactly alike. No more can any two people fit together,
perfect in every way. There will be times when it will seem
hard to give and to love. But see then your reflection as
in a woodland pool, when the image you see looks sad and angered,
then know it is the time for you to smile and to love. It
is not fire that puts out fire. In return will the image in
the pool smile and love. So change your anger for love, and
your tears for joy. It is no weakness to admit a wrong: more
is it a strength, and a sign of eternal growth. Forever love,
help, and respect each other. The constant circle of love
you share is symbolized in these rings. Let them be a token
of your friendship and the partnership you have come to celebrate
on this day. When the waters are rough, let these rings remind
you of the ebb and flow of life. Let them remind you of the
happiness you feel at this moment, and let your memory soothe
your spirit.
The bride and groom would exchange rings
at this time
If there are any things that the bride and
groom would wish to say to one another, this is the perfect
time for such a thing.
Celebrant:
It is with great happiness that I present
you to the community as husband and wife. May you always remember
the love that brought you here on this day, and may the God
and Goddess bless this union. So Mote It Be. You may now kiss....
After conducting your ritual or consecration,
you or the celebrant must take down the circle. Return to
the middle of the circle, stand in the Goddess position and
say while gradually lowering your arms to your side:
The web of life is an endless circle never
to die only to change form.
What was begun is now complete.
Welcome home these energies borne.
The circle is open, never broken.
So Mote It Be!
When your arms reach your waist quickly
drop them to put the energy back into Earth Mother. The circle
is released. You may extinguish the candles and move to your
reception area.
Please note that Celebrant legal authorization
and mention of husband and wife in the vows must be included
to legally marry a couple. Without the authorization and mention
of husband and wife, this ceremony may be used as a good commitment
ceremony.
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